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It is important to know that since no two people are alike, each person who survives a sexual assault will react in his or her own way. It is also important to know that most people who have been sexually assaulted do manage to recover and go on with their lives.
Immediate Reactions...
Immediate Reactions after a sexual assault may include anxiety, fear, disbelief, self-blame, or anger, among other feelings. Some people try to forget about the incident, and simply won’t talk about it. Others’ can’t seem to stop thinking about it, and relive it over and over again in their minds. Outward reactions may range from crying, shaking, distraction and restlessness; to appearing calm, quiet and in control. Going to a treatment center for health care and follow-up services or reporting the assault to the police may be helpful for some, but upsetting to others. It’s important to know that you don’t have to go through this alone. It may help to have a supportive friend or family member with you, or to talk with someone who has also survived a sexual assault.
In the days and weeks that follow...
In the days and weeks that follow a sexual assault, there may be disruptions in routines of daily living – eating, sleeping, concentrating, working, and making decisions. Many people try to forget about the assault or pretend that it never happened. They often discover that the harder they try to forget, the more they seem to be reliving the incident in their minds. Some people withdraw from family and friends; others reach out immediately and “talk through” what happened with someone they trust. Many people feel that no one can understand what they’ve gone through and may become impatient or angry with anyone who asks how they are doing or encourages them to “get on” with their lives.
As more times passes...
As more times passes, many people resume their daily routines and may outwardly appear to be “back to normal.” The outward appearance may be covering many feelings that are part of the healing and recovery process. This is often the time that people seek counseling or go to a support group to discuss fears and hopes, anger and depression, concerns for personal safety, and other issues.
Eventually...
Eventually, most people report that they feel and act like “themselves” again. They begin to do more than go through the motions of their lives. They may never completely forget the assault – any more than they could ever forget any major trauma or crisis in their lives – but the pain and disbelief lessen with time, and the assault begins to fade into the background. Some people experience occasional flashbacks, especially at difficult, stressful, or transitional times in their lives. Counseling is often helpful during those times, as well.
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