Grief During a Pandemic

Honestly, who would have ever thought that we would be in this predicament of social isolation and also need to work through so much grief and loss. Whether you are someone who is experiencing directly a loss of someone due to Covid-19, you’ve lost someone through non-Covid-19 illness and cannot address the loss because you are denied the traditions of closure due to social distancing, or feel very overwhelmed from the many stories of grief and loss, it is our hope these resources may be a place to begin your process of healing.

COMMUNICATE/BE LISTENED TO – When you are experiencing grief, you need to find someone/something to listen to you and your grief experience. Who in your life can you share your fears, your sorrows, your crazy thinking so that you have a place to put word and language to this experience?

Communicate with a trained stranger – Most people in society connect with a counselor or Mental Health professional to work through their personal issues. This is a good time to remind yourself that it is “ok” to seek professional help as you navigate through grief. The Marquette University Counseling Center is open to using social distance communication methods to best help you.

Like a few of the video offerings below, a religious leader, minister, or spiritual companion is truly helpful to walk with you during your grief. Campus Ministry has access to Affiliated Ministers and to campus ministers. Email any of these options to communicate with someone aligned to your faith tradition or someone you may know who can help.

Communicate with a friend/family member – There are many people experiencing grief like you. To risk asking for help from those you know can be both daunting and truly a blessing. Let people you know, know. This is also an area where you may find people trying to tell you advice or ideas that aren’t what you need. They also may have the words that finally free your heavy heart. Be open to both. Don’t assume that people don’t want to hear your grief words. Think about it, if someone shared their words with you, you would welcome them. Right?

Communicate through writing words/Journal – Putting words and expression to thoughts, feelings and emotions crowding your thinking, can relieve a lot of the stress of grief, enabling you a clearer path through this tough time. Suggestions for topics include: writing to the person you lost, writing about the person as you record your memories, writing a letter about your person to either a real or imagined recipient (i.e. writing to your future child the stories and thoughts around your Aunt that you lost), or simply writing freely all that you are experiencing with no direction or purpose, can be a good release of emotions and a good process for healing.